We all make these New Years resolutions, which are usually based on wishful thinking with no real pain caused if one does not follow through. But the commitments one makes to him or herself is not at the same level as a commitment made to another person. When two parties are making a promise to each other, there is always a consequence if one of the parties fails.
I recently entered a weigh loss challenge, joining a team with a the serious intent of losing enough weight to claim a prize at the end of four months. There were many times when I hit the wall and could not lose, other times when temptation overcame me and I bounced up and over where I started. But the commitment to the team kept me going and in the end we succeeded in each member losing a substantial amount of weight.
Know the consequences of slacking off kept me going. There is something very good about some commitments, that you know there will be challenges but the the overall goal is almost impossible to achieve without the help of others.
The same is true of an engagement, the commitment to stay true to each other, forsaking all others. The promise ring is a token, or symbol of the commitment one makes. It not only serves as a reminder for the one wearing it, the ring also gives notice to others that the person wearing it is spoken for.
A few years ago I was traveling with a single fellow and found out how important this is. For those who are not looking for a spouse, we do not look for available singles. But for the single person, tit saves a lot of trouble and potential embarrassment to take a few moments to look for a ring before making any attempt to talk with someone you find attractive.